If you’ve recently been through recovery and are living sober, there are certain things that will stand in your way of completely enjoying your new life. One of those things is seeing others still struggling with alcoholism. If those close to you, like your parents, are still being controlled by alcoholism, this can make your recovery very difficult. Below are some tips on how to deal with your alcoholic parents, and how you can help them get the treatment they need.
Avoid judgment. You have a lot to be proud of. You kicked alcoholism. You have shown dedication and self-control like no other. However, judging your parents for not being able to overcome alcoholism is not the way to get them to accept treatment. Rejoice in your own time, but when you are with your parents, be humble and encouraging to them, letting them know you are ready to stand behind them when they want to take on the challenge too.
Be honest. You should be prepared to have honest conversations with your parents. Let them know you are concerned about them and about their health, and you of all people know firsthand the damage alcoholism can do to a body and mind. Tell them your fears for them, even using statistics or facts you learned in your own rehab program to back up your concerns.
Ask for help. You know many people in the recovery field right now. Ask some of them for help. Talk to your counselor, other alumni of your program, and admissions staff to see if any of them can help you find a way to get your parents to listen to you. You can also ask a family member or friend to help you confront your parents.
Remain committed. You know how long it can take to admit there is a problem and then to get sober. You certainly faced struggles along the way and temptations to go back to drinking. Your parents will face those conflicts too. Be patient with them, and keep encouraging them to get help. Let them know that you will not hang around or support their drinking, but that you will do all you can to help them through rehab and sobriety.
Stay sober. Most importantly, don’t let your parents’ actions bring you back down into alcoholism. If you need to step back and give yourself some space, do so. Don’t let your concern for your parents cause you to relapse. Avoid spending time with them when they are drinking so you are not tempted to drink also.
It is always difficult when someone close to you is struggling with alcoholism, but even more so when you have recently committed to a life of sobriety yourself. The good news is that if you did it, your parents can too. Stick with your sobriety, be a positive role model for your parents, and encourage them in whatever way possible to give sobriety a try.
If you need help getting a loved one into treatment, we can help. My Recovery Helper can find a treatment program that is right for your parents, and we can help them transition into rehab. Contact us at (844) 867-6835 to learn more.