We all can think of someone in our lives who is addicted to drugs or alcohol. For some of us, that person is a close family member or friend. You might not know how to approach your loved one about getting help for their addiction, but it is important that you try. Below are the top ten things your addicted loved one really needs to know, and maybe, just maybe, you are the one to tell them.
“Addiction stinks.” Don’t try to hide that fact when talking with your loved one. Tell them how their drug or alcohol use has hurt you, how it has affected the family, and why you want it to stop. On the one hand, don’t be demeaning or judgmental, but don’t sugar coat things either. Addiction stinks and you want it out of your life.
“You matter.” Sometimes those caught up in addiction get so down on themselves because they don’t think they deserve anything better than their life of addiction. Let your loved one know that they do matter. Remind them of their good qualities, and help them see that they can get those back again if they can just get rid of the addiction.
“You need help.” People often think they can recover on their own. If your loved one has tried in the past and failed, or denies they have a problem, they need to hear from you that professional help is their best option.
“There is hope.” Depression frequently goes along with addiction. Your loved one might have tried to quit in the past and relapsed. They might not have much hope for a better life at this point. Reassure them that there is hope for a better future through rehab and recovery.
“I will help.” Be willing to do what you can to help your loved one in recovery. This does not mean you should enable them, but help them find a treatment program and offer encouragement and support along the way.
“Others care.” There are many people who have devoted their lives to helping others get sober, and many of them now work in the addiction treatment field. Your loved one needs to know that their treatment staff will have their best interests in mind, because they do really want to help people succeed.
“Recovery is difficult.” When your loved one enters rehab, they will quickly find that it takes hard work and dedication. Be honest with your loved one that they will struggle through recovery, but with the help of yourself and others, they can succeed.
“You are not alone.” Addiction is a lonely disease because it causes people to be isolated from family and friends. Support groups and a healthy recovery community are important to long term success. Help your loved one find that community so they can surround themselves with encouraging people.
“I won’t cave.” Your loved one might try to manipulate you in the hopes that you will give in and allow them to stay in their addiction. This is the last thing you want to do. Make it clear that you will not enable them any longer, and that their only option, as far as you are concerned, is treatment.
“I love you.” Most importantly, let your loved one know that you do care and that you do love them. That love might need to be shown as tough love in some cases, but in the end, you want your loved one to get help because of your love for them.
To learn about treatment options for your loved one, call My Recovery Helper at (844) 867-6835 today.